Attachment Theory
This was helpful because I learned how to overcome co-dependency little by little. However, when I started learning about attachment theory in regard to relationships, I learned so much more about both partners in relationships.
What is Attachment Theory?
Attachment theory is a psychological framework that looks at how we form bonds with others. Essentially, it theorizes that the way we attached to caregivers in childhood can influence our behaviour and relationships in adulthood.
That makes sense, right? You’ve probably heard plenty of stories or have your own about how a poor connection or bond between parent and child affected that child as an adult.
Attachment theory breaks up attachment styles into four categories:
- Secure
- Anxious-ambivalent
- Avoidant
- Disorganized
Today, we’re going to cover the anxious-ambivalent style, which we can simplify as “insecure”.
It’s also sometimes referred to as co-dependency, and is characterized by a strong need for closeness and connection coupled with fear of abandonment.
People who experience anxious attachment may be preoccupied with their partner’s availability and become overly dependent on them to provide security and comfort.
Here are some more anxious attachment characteristics:
- Difficulty trusting and feeling secure in a relationship
- Often worried and fears abandonment
- Intense emotional reactions to perceived rejection
- Difficulty with autonomy and independence
- Tendency to act clingy or needy in relationships
- Fearful of expressing needs and emotions directly
- Struggles with jealousy
- Difficulty setting and holding boundaries
- Tendency to become overly involved in the relationship at the expense of personal needs
Do you see yourself or someone you know in any of these characteristics?
If so, an awareness of this attachment style can help you better understand your dynamics and how you can work together with others to create secure and healthy connections.
#StayStrong#SamanthaMackey
When I first started learning about relationships, I used to look at everything through the lens of the co-dependency and narcissism – two ends of a spectrum.
This was helpful because I learned how to overcome co-dependency little by little. However, when I started learning about attachment theory in regard to relationships, I learned so much more about both partners in relationships.
What is Attachment Theory?
Attachment theory is a psychological framework that looks at how we form bonds with others. Essentially, it theorizes that the way we attached to caregivers in childhood can influence our behaviour and relationships in adulthood.
That makes sense, right? You’ve probably heard plenty of stories or have your own about how a poor connection or bond between parent and child affected that child as an adult.
Attachment theory breaks up attachment styles into four categories:
- Secure
- Anxious-ambivalent
- Avoidant
- Disorganized
Today, we’re going to cover the anxious-ambivalent style, which we can simplify as “insecure”.
It’s also sometimes referred to as co-dependency, and is characterized by a strong need for closeness and connection coupled with fear of abandonment.
People who experience anxious attachment may be preoccupied with their partner’s availability and become overly dependent on them to provide security and comfort.
Here are some more anxious attachment characteristics:
- Difficulty trusting and feeling secure in a relationship
- Often worried and fears abandonment
- Intense emotional reactions to perceived rejection
- Difficulty with autonomy and independence
- Tendency to act clingy or needy in relationships
- Fearful of expressing needs and emotions directly
- Struggles with jealousy
- Difficulty setting and holding boundaries
- Tendency to become overly involved in the relationship at the expense of personal needs
Do you see yourself or someone you know in any of these characteristics?
If so, an awareness of this attachment style can help you better understand your dynamics and how you can work together with others to create secure and healthy connections.
#StayStrong #SamanthaMackey#MasterStrokeCoaching #DailyMotivation
